Should I follow the dream that I had and leave my husband?

Posted on January 3, 2007 at 1:08 pm

Divorce

Follow Gramps:

facebooktwittergoogle_plusredditpinterestlinkedinmail
Print Friendly

Gramps,
I can’t figure this dream that I had out myself, and I trust your interpretation of many things. Hopefully you will be able to help me. I have been married to my high school sweetheart for almost four years. We were married in the SLC temple but have since then gone inactive. I contribute to church at least, but he refuses to go (because of laziness to be honest) and he says he doesn’t feel that he fits in there. Other than this and the typical marital disputes, our relationship is wonderful. However last night I had a dream that I was seeing another man who was a strong member of the church. I remember planning to marry him, although in the dream I was still married to my husband. We were not having a sexual affair, but more emotional and I felt protected, spiritual, and just wonderful overall. I remember nearly crying when I woke up because I lost that feeling. Is my dream telling me to leave my husband? Or that in the future we just won’t work out? Or is it telling me that I need to somehow change him? If so, I don’t know how. I’ve tried so many things. Praying, going by myself (which was the hardest of all). He makes promises about going, and then when Sunday comes around he is suddenly sick.
Please help me fix my marriage spiritually so that I can feel that love in my dream in real life.
Jessica, from Rio Rancho, New Mexico

 

Dear Jessica,
It is amazing to me how some people will put more faith in their interpretation of some dream that they have had than they do in the words of the Savior Himself or His legal and authorized representatives on the earth. You have been married in the temple–the greatest blessing that God has to offer His children in mortality. But the realization of those blessings depends upon your faithfulness–and you have thrown them all away. Now you want to save your marriage by putting some interpretation on a dream that would have you further violate your marriage covenants!!
Forget that dream! There is no semblance of truth associated with it. If it contains any inspiration at all, that inspiration is straight from the devil. You know what you must do to restore happiness to your life–OBEY THE LORD’S COMMANDMENTS!! Return immediately to activity in the Church. If your husband doesn’t wish to come back, don’t let that keep you away. If that is the case, he will never come back if you don’t return. Begin to obey all the commandments of the Lord that you made a sacred covenant to obey when you were married. Live is such a way that you will again be worthy to go into the House of the Lord. Attend the temple frequently; try to recapture what you have lost. Encourage your husband to do the same, but NEVER make any demands on him. He must come back through his own volition, the same as you. But the example of your life will have a major impact on his attitude and behavior.
Gramps

Summary
Article Name
Should I follow the dream that I had and leave my husband? - Ask Gramps - Q and A about Mormon Doctrine
Author
Description
I can’t figure this dream that I had out myself, and I trust your interpretation of many things. Hopefully you will be able to help me. I have been married to my high school sweetheart for almost four years. We were married in the SLC temple but have since then gone inactive.

Follow Gramps:

Should I replace studying scriptures with talks from modern day leaders?

July 28, 2014 7:04 am

Question Dear Gramps,It seems like many people study the actual books: Book of Mormon, Bible, or both everyday. However, we are taught the importance of studying living prophets (more)

If we do not follow the commandments, can we still pray for things?

July 27, 2014 7:16 am

Question Hi Gramps, I have two questions… If someone’s  not following the word of wisdom for example, could still pray and ask on Him for the things needed. Life (more)

How can I learn to love my enemies?

July 26, 2014 8:41 am

Question Dear Gramps,I have been struggling with this one for a long time.  I don’t have the ability to love my enemies, those who want to hurt me (more)

What exact words are used to baptize someone?

July 25, 2014 9:36 am

Question What exact words are used to baptize someone? Cox   Answer Dear Cox, What a great question! The answer comes from the governing documents of the Church (more)

Did Jesus have siblings?

July 23, 2014 4:35 am

Question Did Jesus have siblings? Jim   Answer Dear Jim, Yes, Jesus had siblings. John tells us that after the first miracle, where Jesus turned water to wine, (more)

Should we bless our medications?

July 22, 2014 6:54 am

Question Gramps, We ask Heavenly Father to bless our children, our food, the sacrament, our houses and the sick.  I am an old man who takes a lot (more)

How can I muster the courage to date and develop a relationship?

July 21, 2014 5:53 am

Question Gramps, I’m 24 years old and attending BYU. I feel an increasing desire to pursue a relationship and ultimately marry in the temple. However, I’ve never been (more)

Did Jesus ever say there was no longer a need for the Priesthood?

July 20, 2014 9:09 am

Question Gramps, My wife is not a member  of the church. and last week we  were talking about the priesthood. She asked me why we need the priesthood. (more)

What does it mean to speak with the tongues of angels?

July 19, 2014 6:34 am

Question Gramps, What does it mean when it states “to speak with the tongues of Angels?”  I’m assuming it’s to do with the Holy Ghost? Thank you. Renee   (more)

Why did it take so long to lift the ban on the Priesthood for blacks?

July 18, 2014 9:22 am

Question Gramps Hello could you possibly help me understand why it took so long before the ban on blacks holding the Priesthood was lifted? I’ve studied this for (more)

What happens if there is a medical emergency in the temple?

July 17, 2014 7:02 am

Question Gramps, How  do Emergency Services personnel  gain access to an individual needing aid it they are inside one of our Temples and cannot be moved to the (more)

What is eternity?

July 16, 2014 10:43 am

Question Hi Gramps, This has always been a puzzlement for me.  I thought that there is going to be one eternity so why do Mormons speak of  eternities? (more)