Question
Gramps,
I’ve been married to my husband for 5 years. He has repeatedly cheated and how I know this is from going to the doctor and receiving upsetting news. I have prayed and fasted many, many times. I really want to leave the situation but know that I don’t ever want to give up on somebody. I feel like I have been given signs, but I also have felt strong spiritual witness that I need to forgive him and continue on. We fight everyday and I can forgive him, but do not want to continue to be hurt by him. I try to use the D&C 9:7-9 approach and still I am confused. My Bishop also does not know what is keeping me in the relationship. Any insight would be helpful.
Ruth
Answer
Hello Ruth,
Sister, you have asked a very difficult question of Gramps, however I will do my very best to bring comfort to your aching heart and soul.
I am sorry to hear your husband has not been faithful repeatedly these past 5 years. I am reminded of the words of Jacob to the people of Nephi:
“Ye have broken the hearts of your tender wives, and lost the confidence of your children, because of your bad examples before them; and the sobbings of their hearts ascend up to God against you.”
Within the New Testament we are informed that in cases of adultery/fornication, there is a lawful breaking, divorce, of a marriage covenant or contract.
I too have wondered why some women would stay with a man (even men who would stay with a woman) who repeatedly rebels against their covenant of marriage in one of the most inappropriate ways. If he is unrepentant is this really the type of man you want to remain with?
I would recommend that you make a decision. Go to the Lord with the decision. Ask the Lord for confirmation if the decision you have made is correct. Then act upon the answer.
If you go before the Lord with the decision made to divorce, and the Lord agrees with this decision, then leave him. If the Lord answers in the negative then have faith and move forward with faith, hope, and charity.
Gramps
