Comments on: Didn’t the Lord specifically dictate women’s role in the home?

By: Gael

Gael — Wed, 01 Apr 2015 05:09:00 +0000

I have had a lot of frustration with this. My mother, who was single worked outside the home to support us. I was interested in being a wife and mother and raising children. Working at a job never really appealed to me. I could never understand why a woman would want to go out and work and then come home and do a second job. As I became an adult I could not find a husband. I did my best to be the ONE but it just wouldn’t happen. Then At the age of 26 I finally got married in the temple with a dream of being a full time homemaker and a mother. I married the wrong man–trust me I know I married the wrong guy. I couldn’t get pregnant. I had really painful and expensive tests that came up with one result–There was nothing wrong with me. It still didn’t happen. Then my husband lost his job. I was responsible for two thirds to the full income. Sometimes he worked part time when I pushed him to do it. I prayed and fasted that he would find a job but it didn’t happen. I referred him to church leaders to help him find a job. It became obvious that he was satisfied having me work and support him. It was then I divorced him.

By: will7370

will7370 — Sat, 12 Jul 2014 16:59:00 +0000

In reply to Liz Perrott. I agree. In former times a stay at home wife and mother usually had family and friends close by who could offer help and adult conversation. Now, because of jobs and life situations, most families live a great distance from their extended family. And I think perhaps the Adversary planned it that way: to increase stress and dissatisfaction in the wife and mother, while at the same time increasing temptation and chances for disloyalty for a husband in the workplace. Such are the last days we live in.

By: Gramps

Gramps — Sat, 12 Jul 2014 05:16:00 +0000

When Christ gave the “new commandment” to love as He loved, he included statements that showed how He loved His disciples. Almost universally, John tells us Christ’s love came on condition of our obedience. “He that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him,” Jesus says, but clarifies “he that hath my commandments and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me” (John 14:21). And again, “If a man … keep my words … my Father will love him” (John 14:23). Let’s look at the next chapter. “If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love” (John 15:10).

Elder Holland is correct that God’s love is always there for us. Elder Oaks explains it well in his talk Law and Love (linked above) that there is a baseline love that God has for all His children (the rain falls equally on the just and unjust), but that some love/blessings are reserved solely for the obedient.

By: Liz Perrott

Liz Perrott — Thu, 10 Jul 2014 18:10:00 +0000

The difficulty with this, is that we now educate most women on par with men, and they want to use their education. Yes, looking after a family is crucial but there are so many reports of depression in women who are with children all day and devoid of adult company. I don’t know what the answer but both a woman who wants to be at home and can’t afford to and a woman who wants to use her qualifications but feels frowned on because her husband is earning more than enough are both unfulfilled . In the UK where male unemployment is high there are many men who have become the stay at home parent because the wife can get a good job and he can’t. Does that make them less of a man or her less of a woman?