Comments on: I just discovered my boyfriend is addicted to pornography. What am I in for? https://askgramps.org/discovered-boyfriend-addicted-pornography/ Moral answers to everyday concerns, curiosities, and uncertainties. Gramps considers all questions on all topics from all sources. Wed, 29 Sep 2021 03:14:34 +0000 hourly 1 By: Lemon Wader https://askgramps.org/discovered-boyfriend-addicted-pornography/#comment-35776 Thu, 01 Jun 2017 03:33:00 +0000 https://en.elds.org/askgramps-org/?p=36743#comment-35776 I believe the root of the challenge, beyond (but related to) addiction, is the problem of communication between you two. If I am accurately reading your post, you were dating 4 months, find out there is an addiction he is working on, and now 10 months later he still doesn’t know you know? It looks like you posted this three months ago- I would be curious to see where you are in your relationship today. As half of an eternal relationship that is successfully winning the war against addiction one day at a time, I can tell you that it is definitely possible! There are both challenges and blessings to a relationship that is in recovery from addiction. If you would ever like support or have any questions, please feel free to contact me. my username @ gmail!

]]> By: Douglas Self https://askgramps.org/discovered-boyfriend-addicted-pornography/#comment-35706 Fri, 12 May 2017 20:18:00 +0000 https://en.elds.org/askgramps-org/?p=36743#comment-35706 In reply to Catalina.

The words of a nearly 40 y.o. tune by “Blondie” seem applicable:

Once I had a love and it was a gas
Soon turned out had a heart of glass
Seemed like the real thing, only to find
Mucho mistrust, love’s gone behind

]]> By: Douglas Self https://askgramps.org/discovered-boyfriend-addicted-pornography/#comment-35705 Fri, 12 May 2017 20:16:00 +0000 https://en.elds.org/askgramps-org/?p=36743#comment-35705 A LOT of heartache, IMO. If you’re convinced that he’s making a sincere attempt to break this awful habit, then, if your heart and the Spirit lead you to stick by him, do so. However, if your inclination is to ‘bail’, then do so, NOW. Neither of you are doing each other favors if you stick with a relationship that either of you see no future in.

]]> By: Catalina https://askgramps.org/discovered-boyfriend-addicted-pornography/#comment-35676 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 14:43:00 +0000 https://en.elds.org/askgramps-org/?p=36743#comment-35676 How come no one is pointing out that she betrayed his trust by snooping in his journal?? Isn’t she being just as bad as him to be hiding this secret??

]]> By: Brad H. https://askgramps.org/discovered-boyfriend-addicted-pornography/#comment-35588 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 21:08:00 +0000 https://en.elds.org/askgramps-org/?p=36743#comment-35588 If it’s alright with Gramps – I’d like to share a link to a short video where Sister Carole M. Stephens, first counselor in the Relief Society general presidency addresses this very issue. Very inspired words.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1AwuQh1mI9E

]]> By: erikpeterhansen https://askgramps.org/discovered-boyfriend-addicted-pornography/#comment-35582 Tue, 07 Mar 2017 21:58:00 +0000 https://en.elds.org/askgramps-org/?p=36743#comment-35582 I was cleaned up from this thing quite a while before being sealed. The secretive part has to end. He needs to NEVER lie to you and get on that path immediately. And again if you are not prepared spiritually, emotionally don’t get into it all. It is a lot like being married to someone with PTSD, depression or a current alcohol addiction. Being married or sealed with a mentally ill person is not easy but it is rewarding spiritually. His and your relationship with God needs to always remain pristine even if life isn’t. Plan on a fight with The Lord at your side, both of you. We all fight in different degrees. Joseph and Emma fought with Satan harder than anyone. Their story is full of love and tragedy. They are now the great example of love for everyone. They are now supremely happy.

]]> By: A Friend https://askgramps.org/discovered-boyfriend-addicted-pornography/#comment-35580 Tue, 07 Mar 2017 13:15:00 +0000 https://en.elds.org/askgramps-org/?p=36743#comment-35580 My biggest concern is why he has not told you of his addiction yet. Part of this addiction of being secretive and dating for that long and not saying anything could be dangerous too. There is a shame though that is hard to overcome. If you plan on getting married I highly suggest counciling first before you do as there is a lot you will deal with depending on how mad the addiction is. I relate pornography to heroine, you just never know what that hit will do. For some it’s no big deal to others it is a gateway to trying other things that have serious consequences. I have personally experienced this in my life. While we were able to overcome our obstacles and the ramifications of this addiction it has been very hard! The result was adultry and those feelings of betrayl and not good enough have been almost too much to bare at times. His addiction was nothing in ccomparison to others I know who have experienced the same results, or have been in abusive situations. It is important that you talk to each other about this and the possible outcomes in the future because it is very real and the sooner you learn how to address those issues the better. I wish you all the best. There is hope but it take exteeme and diligent work.

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