https://askgramps.org/how-can-i-uphold-my-standards-around-family-members-who/ Moral answers to everyday concerns, curiosities, and uncertainties. Gramps considers all questions on all topics from all sources. Wed, 29 Sep 2021 03:43:04 +0000 hourly 1 https://askgramps.org/how-can-i-uphold-my-standards-around-family-members-who/#comment-33915 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 19:42:00 +0000 http://www.askgramps.org/how-can-i-uphold-my-standards-around-family-members-who-dont-share-the-same-values/#comment-33915 I am the only one in my family who is LDS and the gatherings were difficult in the beginning. I was able to have a heart-to-heart with my parents at different times along with my siblings. I let them know that I respect them for their beliefs and don’t expect them to change any more than I would hope they’d respect me and not try to change me or my beliefs. I am not saying this will work, people are people but, what I am saying is you can voice your stand when offered alcohol or a cigarette or choose not to be there when they are indulging if it’s bothersome or you can cement your resolve to not participate in the indulgence while visiting. My family over the 21 years I’ve been a member not only stopped trying to convince me they’ve embraced my differences with tolerance.

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