Comments on: What will an unsealed family look like in the afterlife?

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 18:19:00 +0000

Out of my sibling and parents, only 2 of us remained believing in the gospel. It’s takes faith and action (works). The way I see it for myself is that I don’t make up the commandments, what is required of me. God says how it goes, what he requires for me to live with Him again and if I do it, I can become like Him and abide in the Celestial Kingdom. If not, I can’t. I don’t think too much about this because it’s not a good thought, but should my father be found worthy (and, of course, through grace) to become exalted, he will eventually have another wife whom I will be sealed to. It’s not willy-nilly. Whether I’ll have a relationship of any kind with my mother and siblings, I don’t know. I haven’t searched gospel doctrine for an answer. Safe to say, your abusers will not be exalted unless there is heavy repenting which would involve significant apologies and restitution to you (not that I see how that can be given). You will not be with people you despise. It’s contrary to where we are attaining to go.

By: Em

Em — Mon, 07 Aug 2017 05:05:00 +0000

It sounds like you’ve had some hard times in life. I’m sorry for your pain. Sometimes it is hard to understand why bad things happen to good people. I think it’s important to know that while the gospel of Jesus Chris is perfect, the people trying to live it are not. We can’t say a whole church is wrong because of bad choices by imperfect people. It is widely accepted that alcohol can damage your liver, but how many people know that and drink anyway?! Similarly, just because we have knowledge, doesn’t mean we dont make mistakes. I am happy to hear you have found love and healing in your life. I hope you find what you are looking for. I’m sorry I don’t have any real insight on your question. Best of luck!
-Emily

By: Anonymous Person

Anonymous Person — Tue, 04 Jul 2017 18:50:00 +0000

I had this type of situation develop in my own life. I didn’t really voice this concern to others because i was concerned it may sound like whining or wanting to escape my real family when I do hope to help them. It’d been growing in my mind for several years. But as time progressed my family members kept getting farther apart the harder I’d try to be close to them. They also got to be more close minded. And the neglect kept growing. When I would try to talk to my siblings on the phone they began cutting the phone calls short to the point of barely even saying hello, and not allowing for in person visits.

One day I had a dream that Heavenly Father allowed a family to adopt me. This was a very real feeling with very clear imagery in the dream and clear meaning with my mind feeling very alert and awake, not sluggish. I don’t know if the couple in the dream that adopted me is in fact the one couple that will really adopt me or if it was meant to show me ‘it will be someone like them in traits’. I think it could be either based on the imagery at this time. I’m a bit hopeful about how it will unfold.

Then something happened and I worried about it a bit more because it seemed that the ones I thought would adopt me after this life seemed aloof. I was worried at one point that I’d offended them somehow accidentally.

Then I had a second dream where another different family adopted me that I knew. I don’t know if it will be this particular family or if it just means someone like that them.

I think the two different dreams were meant to comfort me that even if one of them decides that they won’t that it will still come to pass in a way that I deserve based on my worthiness, faith, and repentance; not based on materialism. And part of that thought is that Heavenly Father has allowed for options and showed me he’s prepared options for me, in case people decide to use their agency unwisely to leave me out of the picture, which is what my original family has decided to do.

I commented on this now because I think there are a lot of people like me and I wanted to do so anonymously. The advent of materialism and obsession with wealth in LDS culture has created a whole culture of leaving people out who aren’t wealthy for one reason or another when there isn’t anything wrong with those people at all! In some cases gossip has destroyed any chance of people in some wards building friendships based on things that people have heard which have zero percent basis on fact.

But here on an LDS chat board; this is also a safe place where I can comment anonymously to help people looking for truth like me. After you accept baptism and the gift of the holy ghost you will keep searching for truths. The reason is searching for truths is how you get to the future Heavenly Father has planned for you.

I’m sure that adoption is very inspired and true principal. Baptism and the gift of the Holy Ghost are in fact principles of adoption into the family of Christ. Knowing that will help people who are faithful who don’t have families realize that there are good things in their future for all faithful latter day saints. There’s a plan for those incomplete and fractured families to have things fixed and repaired! Isn’t that wonderful? Some of those families will get things worked out but for the ones with a lot of damage things can work out too in other ways! There’s a plan that works for each person individually!

By: Heather 'Chatterbox' Branson

Heather 'Chatterbox' Branson — Mon, 03 Jul 2017 23:03:00 +0000

I’ve left the church and the family that I was sealed to I am no longer a member of, I had a different family that I was adopted into who were not members of any faith. How do I insure that I’m not in the sealed family’s eternal family, I want nothing to do with them in this life or the next