Hey umm is it okay to kiss your boyfriend when you are younger than sixteen?
Dear Smiling Face,
I guess that depends on how much you like playing with fire. Your little kiss may be innocent enough, but it will produce all sorts of chemical changes in your boyfriend. He also may be a great guy, but the forces that you ignite with that little kiss are so strong that even good guys have a really tough time keeping them in control. And, by the way, it gets even worse after you’re sixteen.
We have yet another problem. It’s getting harder and harder to find a guy with high moral standards in the first place. Our society in not in a moral decline. It’s in a moral free fall! Of course there still are great people in the world who love the Lord and live by his word, but there are many, many more who do not. Gross immorality has become socially acceptable, and it’s shoveled at us from every enticing angle– music, both filthy lyrics and heavy, emotion producing beat; movies, TV, radio are all filled with the type of filth that would have been utterly shocking to anyone even 20 years ago. It’s really a major task for young people to keep their heads screwed on straight with that onslaught of temptation being continuously thrown at us. James said, in James 3, Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!
So think of that innocent little kiss as though it were a match, and your boyfriend were a can of gasoline. Gramps’ advise is to keep all your relationships with the opposite sex completely Platonic until you are prepared and ready to begin a marriage relationship This is what the dictionary says about Platonic love– a close relationship between two persons in which sexual desire is nonexistent or has been suppressed or sublimated.