My son has been good friends with a boy who is a Mormon since second grade. This boy turned 16 and is having a birthday partywith 2 other boys. Over 100 kids invited. My son was not invited because the 2 other boys did not “vote” on him to be on the list. The parents, did not intervene. The issue now is one of forgiveness which my son has told this Mormon boy he forgives him. This event is a turning point in their friendship. I have no idea how to explain the choices made and lack of parent direction. I am trying to understand what the Mormon belief should say about this… to explain these actions by understanding the Mormon message?
Alison
Dear Alison,
The Mormon message is that we are all human and fallible. It is unfortunate that your son was not invited to the party, but I think that you are teaching the greater, most valuable Christian lesson by teaching him to forgive. All friends, no matter what denomination they are, will at some point hurt us. The greater lesson is not to get back, or wonder why they did what they did, but to forgive, learn wisdom and move on. Besides, the teenage mind is still maturing and learning thus are not only prone to social missteps, but to deafness when an adult tries to speaks to them.
