Question
Gramps,
I am still sealed to my ex. I have since remarried. We were told by our Stake President that we can’t be sealed till we have been married for 5 years, which will be up in about 1 1/2 years. I am pregnant now and it’s really upsetting that our child will be sealed to me and my ex-husband and that there is no way that child will ever be able to be sealed to us. Please help us find answers as to why and to allay our fears that this child will belong to another man than it’s own father in the eternities.
Teresa
Answer
Teresa,
In The Church Handbook of Instruction we are informed that all things will be worked out through the love, tender mercies, and grace of our Heavenly Father. This is where we should place our trust, not in our fears of “what ifs” that may or may not be.
Here are a couple of questions for you to ponder:
1) Do you think our Father in Heaven knows your situation?
2) Do you think our Father in Heaven is perfect and knows what he is doing?
3) Should we place 100% trust in our Father in Heaven and his will?
If you can answer yes to all of these, as I can, then you do not need to fear what will happen in the eternities with regards to your unborn child. The most important aspect for your child is that he/she is born within the covenant to parents who love him/her. In the eternities, we will not experience earthly emotions of jealousy, anger, fear, etc… like we do now. In the eternities, we will be able to see things as they really are — truth. If we love truth, then we will not fear any decision our loving Father in Heaven will make for us in the eternities regarding our offspring.
Remember also, we and our children are the offspring of God and His heirs — we “belong” to Him. In this life, we have the wonderful opportunity to raise our children as our own. In the next life, I will reiterate again, all things in the end will be worked out by a loving, merciful, Father in Heaven. Place your trust in His love and mercy, not our limited understanding of the principles and doctrines we now have.
If within your heart though you still need to find peace (although what we have is what has been revealed at this time), I would recommend that you take the opportunity to seek personal revelation from our Father in heaven. That you take the time to fast, pray, and attend the temple with your current husband in order to find the answers you seek. Until more has been revealed, this is the best way to move forward. Trust in our Father in heaven’s love and mercy, and seek direct answers through personal revelation.
Gramps
