If women are sealed to their husbands (and their husband’s extended family) for eternity, what is the effect of being sealed to their own birth parents? Doesn’t the sealing to the husband effectively cancel out the sealing to the birth parents, which will amount to nothing more than visitation rights?
When you marry here on earth, does that cancel your relationship with your parents? After marriage you live with neither your husband’s family nor with your own family, but of course would comprise a family of your own. When you are sealed in the temple as a daughter to your parents, you are their daughter forever, but you would live with your eternal husband, just as you do here.
Those who achieve the glory of exaltation in the celestial kingdom, as we read in the Mormon scripture, the Doctrine and Covenants, become rulers in eternity.
And again, verily I say unto you, if a man marry a wife by my word, which is my law, and by the new and everlasting covenant, and it is sealed unto them by the Holy Spirit of promise….then shall they be gods, because they have no end; therefore shall they be from everlasting to everlasting, because they continue; then shall they be above all, because all things are subject unto them.
Then shall they be gods, because they have all power, and the angels are subject unto them.
Verily, verily, I say unto you, except ye abide my law ye cannot attain to this glory. For strait is the gate, and narrow the way that leadeth unto the exaltation and continuation of the lives, and few there be that find it, because ye receive me not in the world neither do ye know me.
But if ye receive me in the world, then shall ye know me, and shall receive your exaltation; that where I am ye shall be also.(D&C 132:19-23)
This doctrine could be considered even blasphemous in the sectarian world. However, as we begin to understand who our Father in Heaven is, and who his children are, the logic of that true doctrine becomes apparent.
In the first place God is indeed our father.
Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? (Heb 12:9)
As his children we have the potential of maturing to become like our Eternal Father.
And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers;
For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ:
Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ (Eph 4:11-13)
The gospel of Jesus Christ is designed to teach us the path to perfection. By following its precepts we may return to the presence of our Father in Heaven, and eventually continue our growth and progress until we achieve an eternal adulthood as exalted beings in the celestial kingdom.
In that realm, the universe is ruled by the patriarchal order of the Holy Priesthood. So your husband would rule and reign under the direction of his father, and your ruling role would be under the direction of your mother-in-law. But those sacred functions would in no way annul you paternal and maternal family relationships.