What is the difference between purity and righteousness?

What is the difference between purity and righteousness?

Question

 

Gramps,

What’s the difference between purity and righteousness?

Marilyn

 

Answer

 

Dear Marilyn,

Your question is very short, and thus it is hard to discern your intent.  Forgive me if I have misunderstood you.  At first glance, some might say there is no difference.  However, a very cursory search on LDS.org for “purity” brings up several articles about keeping the Law of Chastity.  Righteousness is generally thought of in a more broad sense.  However, it is understood that if one wants to be righteous, they will also be morally clean and pure.  In that sense, they are the same.

Some survivors of sexual abuse and rape may struggle with these concepts feeling that they are “unclean” because of what happened to them.  Blaming oneself is very common among survivors, even when their own logic denies the possibility, the feeling can be very strong.  But it is not their fault.

Elder Holland once said speaking of immorality, “One who uses the God-given body of another without divine sanction abuses the very soul of that individual, abuses the central purpose and processes of life.” Personal Purity

He was speaking to couples in which both parties are consenting. How much stronger would his language surely be if he was speaking to those who force themselves on another person?

I would like to tell all survivors of sexual abuse or rape, it wasn’t your fault.  You are clean.  You are pure.  You are righteous. No one else’s actions can take that away from you.

 

Gramps

 

 

Is there any value in physical beauty?

Is there any value in physical beauty?

Question

Dear Gramps,

Of what value is great physical beauty if the inside is what’s important?  Why did the Lord even create great physical beauty when He only looks upon and judges us according to the heart?  He must have had a reason or else He would not have created it.  And yet many are never blessed with it. We are constantly being told it is not relevant and de-emphasized by leaders within the church. Okay. So why even have it in the first place?

Robert (more…)

Trials

Trials

My dear friend has been having a lot of trials lately. It seems everytime something is set to go well life pulls back and says “gotcha!” As a result her outlook on life is bleak and I can feel her losing faith. I remember reading a scripture about our trials always being consecrated for our own good but I can’t seem to find it. I feel like it might help her perspective. Do you know which scripture I mean or have an even better one for me to share?

Rachael (more…)

Why do I feel like I have to set my expectations so high?

Why do I feel like I have to set my expectations so high?

Question

Hey Gramps,

I love reading your answers to questions and I’ve got one of my own. I’m a junior right now in high school and this year I’m pretty sure I’m overloaded beyond what I can handle when it comes to school. (I’m taking pre-calculus, physics and AP U.S. history) Now thats bad enough but the kicker is I’ve realized that I set far too high expectations for myself. I set these academic goals in my head that are way too impractical, but I work my butt off and get nowhere near where I want to be. This makes me depressed and feel like giving up on my dreams of having a sucessful career in the future or getting into a good university because I feel like I’m not smart enough to be sucessful. Worst of all I cannot get the notion out of my head that if I’m not successful I’m not going to be happy. Which makes me even more discouraged and feel like a failure. Any thoughts, ideas, suggestions??

Tyler

 

Answer

Dear Tyler,

It’s great that you’re realizing your limitations now in your teen years. You are facing an Ether 12:27 opportunity where your weakness has made you humble and granted you the honor finding the Lord’s grace. Your parents and teachers know you far better than I. Meet with them and discuss your course load, but be sure to also counsel with them on ways to rise to the occasion. You may need to change your study habits. You may want to get a tutor or find a study group. These are all excellent skills to hone before you start college. Few people learn well alone, just reading a text book. Studies have shown that students master a subject better if they explain it to others. Learn these skills now, and you will find them serving you throughout your career.

Good luck Tyler. I wish you the best.

Gramps

 

Does the church go too far regarding modesty?

Does the church go too far regarding modesty?

Question

Gramps,

I just read your response to the mother about short skirts and modesty. Modesty is a matter of attitude. A girl can be dressed from neck to floor in a loose fitting gunny sack and still be immodest. The church is now airbrushing sleeves onto pictures of little girls in sleeveless dresses. Ridiculous! I realize an endowed member must wear sleeves, but a little girl? Or a teenager? What’s immodest about a bare shoulder, for heaven’s sake? Also, girls are told to be modest so they don’t turn the boys on. So why should girls be responsible for a boy’s behavior. Seems to me the boys should be taught to bridle those feelings.

Sharee (more…)

Being Offended

Being Offended

We had a lesson in Relief Society about the Word of Wisdom. One sister made a comment that if you keep the word of wisdom you will avoid disease. To me, sitting there in my power chair with multiple sclerosis, that was a very uncomfortable moment. I have to go back, that is not going to keep me away from church. What should I do, if anything?

Carrie (more…)

Help through the Savior

Help through the Savior

Dear Gramps,

Six years ago I lost my family through divorce (through no fault of my own (my mother-in-law caused it). We had not been sealed in the temple yet. We have had no contact in all this time. I love and miss them so much that I cannot stand to live my life. I have been in hell all this time. How is it that the Savior can heal my pain? How can He make things right? Simply asking for help doesn’t seem to work. Please give me specifics, because I so desperately need relief.

Rob (more…)

Forgiving

Forgiving

I’ve been married to my husband for 5 years. He has repeatedly cheated and how I know this is from going to the doctor and receiving upsetting news. I have prayed and fasted many, many times. I really want to leave the situation but know that I don’t ever want to give up on somebody. I feel like I have been given signs, but I also have felt strong spiritual witness that I need to forgive him and continue on. We fight everyday and I can forgive him, but do not want to continue to be hurt by him. I try to use the D&C 9:7-9 approach and still I am confused. My Bishop also does not know what is keeping me in the relationship. Any insight would be helpful.

Ruth (more…)

Women

Women

I know that we are all God’s children and He loves us equally. But as I read scriptures (both Bible and Book of Mormon, I have noticed that God seems to have loved David in a special way over the rest of us. And He is very protective of women and warns man about the purity of His daughters. Why is it that He does not say the same for men? Does it have anything to do with the womb and creation? Also, I have heard that men need the priesthood to keep the letter of the law in control, while women is above that and carries the spirit of the law? Can you help with these questions.

Jon (more…)

Dresses

Dresses

My teenage daughter insists that she wants to wear short dresses (above knee). She said there is no standard for this. My question is: What is the proper length of the dress of the girls, women and ladies who are LDS?

Edson (more…)

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