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Dear gramps,

I am sealed to my former spouse. We have five children born in the covenant. We divorced. Not by my choice. I remarried and am sealed to my new wife. I still love my ex wife. I don’t have any inappropriate relationship with her. She confessed that she got a divorce to teach me a lesson. She wanted me to” win” her back. I found out after I was remarried. She has since moved on. Remarried and wants to cancel our sealing so she can be sealed to her new husband. I never wanted a divorce and am now facing this cancellation. Is it inappropriate for me to express my love in the letter im requested to write concerning the sealing to her new husband? I don’t want the sealing cancelled.


Dear Stephen,

mormon-temple-Adelaide-australiaFrom your email it sounds like both you and your wife made foolish mistakes that cost you your marriage together. And now it sounds like you are considering another foolish mistake. What do you hope to gain by protesting your wife gaining something with her new husband that you already claim with your new wife? You say you love your ex but the action you are considering is not an act of love. Its an act of total selfishness. Why throw and obstacle up for her happiness if you love her? Out of spite, or do you hope to ‘win’ her back somehow? Neither one is good and the only way to do the latter is to destroy two more marriages.

Pray to the Lord for the strength let her go. Focus your thoughts, and efforts on your current wife and kids.


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