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I just want to ask your opinion on something.. I never had a boyfriend but I do go out on dates and I do like someone right now. I’m preparing to go on my mission. I’m really sure that I will serve my mission. My question is, should I tell a guy how I feel? I know that there’s no point in telling him because what will he do after he knew that I like him. I don’t really know how he feels. I want to move on with my life and focus on my mission but I really feel like I should tell him how I feel. I feel like that’s the only way I can have peace of mind. He is my co-worker and he is Japanese and I am Filipino. I’m not sure if I can see him again but there was some point that I feel like he’s someone I can see myself with in the future but I know that it might change when I come back. I just feel like I want to tell him. What do you think?



mormon-missionaryIf someone told you they liked you, and then said that you won’t be able to see them for 18 months… wouldn’t that feel like a “bait and switch”? Offering something and then taking it back?

I would not tell him how you feel. Why? First, unless he’s LDS, he’s going to pressure you into not fulfilling your mission calling. Second, he’s your co-worker and I’m a firm believer of keeping such relationships out of the workplace. Third, you will change, mature and grow on your mission. Your tastes may change.

I would not make any long term decisions until you have returned home from your mission. Return with Honor!


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