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Dear Gramps,

We recently lost my 16 year old grandson in a tragic accident. I know that he is in a better place and beginning a whole new adventure, and we will see him again when we return to live with Heavenly Father. My grandson used to go to church with me when he was small. When he was nine years old, he stood and bore his testimony (unsolicited) that he knew the church was true. I believe he meant it. Even with this knowledge, this is the hardest thing I have ever gone through. My daughter is not a member of any church and has begun to worry that maybe there is nothing after this life. How can I help her?





Dear Phyllis,

I am sorry for the loss of your grandson, but share with you the confidence that we will see our loved ones again in the marvelous environment of the spirit world, soon thereafter to live again in the flesh in immortality. The wonders of the next compartment of our existence are beyond our imagination.

These traumatic events often cause us to reflect on the things of eternity. If your daughter is beginning to question the eternity of existence, there are several ways that she could be helped. First, it must be understood that the things of eternity are known to man only through the revelations of the Holy Spirit, and that those revelations are open to all who would seek, regardless of their belief system. However, they must seek in the right place and in the right way, or the object of their search will not be found.

The answers to all your daughter’s questions are in the Book of Mormon, if she would read that book with an inquiring spirit and an open mind she will begin to feel the truthfulness of truths revealed therein. Here are some key passages-

With respect to seeking in the proper manner, your daughter might consider the following scriptures-

Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive [them], and ye shall have [them] (Mark 11:24).

When reading the Book of Mormon it would be well for the person, at the beginning of each page, to ask the Father to reveal to her if the things that she is reading are not true. If this is done in sincerity I can promise her that the Father will answer her prayers. Then it would be well to read of the comparison of faith to a seed, found in Alma 32:26-43, and to consider the great promise of Moroni,

And when ye shall receive these things, I would exhort you that ye would ask God, the Eternal Father, in the name of Christ, if these things are not true; and if ye shall ask with a sincere heart, with real intent, having faith in Christ, he will manifest the truth of it unto you, by the power of the Holy Ghost (Moroni 10:4).

With that background, as she reads the Book of Mormon, there is no doubt that she will see the reality of life beyond the grave, and feel the benevolence of a kind and merciful Heavenly Father who is anxious to wipe away her tears and to give her strength to see through the traumatic difficulties of the passage of the life of our loved ones from this world to the next.






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