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Dear Gramps,
How can I convince my family to get married, most especially my mother and elder ones? I want to get married at 21 years old.
Austin, from Aba, Abia, Nigeria

Dear Austin,
You ask a question on one of the very most important subjects in the world, and yet you tell me nothing about yourself or any of the circumstances that could help direct an answer. So the only thing we can do is to make some general comments on the subject. Apparently, other members of your family are living in a marital relationship but are not married. We must state that marriage is ordained by God as one of the most sacred institutions devised for man. To live in a marriage relationship without having the relationship sanctioned either by God or by man is a gross sin, and should be avoided at all costs. Such illegal partners should separate immediately, regardless of the cost, and live separately and singly until their marriage can be properly solemnized. From the inspired mind of the President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints came an edict to the world, two paragraphs of which are copied below—

“The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.

“The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners.”


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