My wife and I have been married for about a year and we have been to the temple a few times. I really feel like I am not receiving the full benefits of marriage by not going to the temple. I have severe claustrophobia that causes me to have panic attacks in the temple. What would you recommend?
I recommend going to the temple. You’ve been able to go to the temple before and receive the ordinances. I find that we can often endure tremendous difficulties if we know that it serves a higher purpose. I imagine that was the case when you received your own ordinances in the house of the Lord – you had a testimony that the blessings you would obtain in receiving the saving ordinances are greater than the discomfort you feel in some of the small rooms.
If the discomfort is too great, I would encourage you to set aside some time and spend it in one of the open areas of the temple. Read the scriptures. Particularly the ones that lay the foundation for temple service and the doctrines taught in the temple. Ponder on the ordinances you have received and what your place is as a savior on Mt. Zion. As you get more comfortable, participate in the ordinances that are in more open rooms, like the endowment or baptisms. From there, work your way towards sealings and initiatories.
If you need additional motivation to get you to the temple, work on your family history. Don’t just get dates. Get to know your departed family members who are waiting for their work to get done. Knowing their lives and your connection to them will motivate you to stand as their proxy. You can again find a cause greater than your discomfort that will bless your life and others.