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Dear Gramps,

I’m getting married in the temple this summer as a recent convert to the church, and will have been a member of the Mormon Church for a year in July. My family is having a really hard time with the temple ceremony and not being able to come into the Temple. They won’t listen or understand that it’s sacred and tell me that I’ve joined a cult, and are refusing to speak to me if I go through with it. I know that no matter what, I need to please Heavenly Father first, and I pray all the time for His help in softening their hearts, but it’s still hard, and it’s making me doubt whether or not I should get married at all. I’m so confused, and I’m really sad that my family won’t talk to me. The church isn’t about exclusion, how can I help my family to understand? Thank you!





Dear Katy,

If you were to give in to your family’s wishes and not be married in the temple, what kind of a message do you think that would send to them about how much the church means to you? The answer to your dilemma is clearly given in the scriptures-

For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.


And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household.


He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. (Matthew 10:35-37)

Although your family may not understand the basis for your decision to be married in the temple and may be quite opposed to it, nevertheless, it’s your marriage, not theirs. Further, as you receive the blessings of the temple and live by the covenants that you make with the Lord therein, and as you treat your family with love and kindness they will be impressed by the wonderful qualities of your life and could very well come to accept the gospel because of the power of your example.






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